What Can Happen When You Stop Talking and Start Listening

By June 17, 2014 No Comments

What Can Happen When You Stop Talking and Start Listening

Good news. If you develop the skill and discipline of preparing and inserting impact questions into your conversation, you will begin to learn how to listen.

Impact questions allow someone to provide you with insight into how they think or what they think. If you don’t take the time to listen to the response to your own impact questions, however, you’re missing the most valuable part of a conversation.

It takes discipline to pause. Let it happen.

By listening, you provide ‘breathing room’ or ‘thinking space’ in a conversation. (And honestly, couldn’t we all use more of that?)

17 Things That Can Happen When You Actually Listen:

  1. You give a person who needs more time to formulate a response the time to do so.
  2. You learn something new.
  3. You demonstrate that you care about a viewpoint other than your own.
  4. You demonstrate patience.
  5. You become a team player.
  6. You get to ‘see’ how they make decisions. (and in sales, this knowledge is key)
  7. You prevent yourself from jumping to conclusions or making assumptions.
  8. You consider what you say before you actually say it.
  9. You broaden (rather than narrow) the discussion.
  10. You ask better questions (and handle objections with ease).
  11. You encourage others to talk to you when they have a problem or conflict.
  12. You show support.
  13. You avoid careless mistakes.
  14. You make smarter decisions.
  15. You become a source of energy for others.
  16. You demonstrate humility.
  17. You are ‘present’.
  18. You come closer to perfecting the art of conversation.

Listening is a skill and discipline that can easily be instilled in your work. Think about situations that would profit from a “pause” and make a conscious effort to allow that pause to happen.

Remember: Selling is mostly listening.

Related Posts:

How to Hire Disciplined Salespeople

Knowledge is Overrated and Discipline Is Key

The Art of Conversation: The Salesperson’s Guide to Conducting a Conversation


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Written by Jenny Poore. You can find her on Twitter and .


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